Have you ever found yourself after a long night asking, “What do men want out of a date?”

Well, you’re not alone. Men are not always as simple as they appear to be. Conventional wisdom says they only care about looks, but that’s not the pure truth.

Keep reading and I’ll break down the six things men want out of a date.

He Wants A Good Conversation
Don’t get me wrong: looks are important, as they are to many women. But, they’re not everything.

Men want a good conversation. It’s great to be easy on the eyes, but in a relationship both parties need substance. Deep conversation is an indicator of real chemistry. Conversation shows him your charm, wit, and interests. All of which are great qualities in a partner. I’m not saying to unload on your date on the first meet, but there’s no need to hide your true feelings either. People are afraid to show depth and to do so shows confidence, which is always attractive.

He Wants Compatibility
Relationships are always about mutual acknowledgement of people. They’re about seeing who someone is and appreciating them for it. Dates are the way that people find out if there’s potential for long-term compatibility.

Your date will be looking out for common interests, shared values, and chemistry. So if you think it’s there, try to show it off. Both of you are trying to figure out if you’re on the same wavelength. Answer a lot of questions and ask your own in response.

He Wants to Let His Guard Down
Men learn from a young age from their dad, brothers, friends, and society that they need to be manly all the time. This usually means strong, powerful, and a fixer of all things. When they’re with other men, they wear their man suit, but it can be exhausting. Men feel limited by this expectation and they want to be able to let their guard down.

So on a date, he wants to be able to take off the suit and just be himself in a way he struggles to be at other times. He wants to be able to share his feelings, be listened to, and just be himself, not the superman everyone expects him to be. Give him the space to do this, and he’ll be far more likely to be himself and open up to you.

He Wants to Have Fun
You do too, don’t you? 

Despite all the complaining you hear about the single life, some people do find it fun. And it’s at it’s best when it is. The best dates are a balancing act of deep conversations, play, laughter, and intimacy. Try not to take yourself too seriously. It’ll make things easier for both of you.

He Wants to Get to Know the Real You
Be yourself. I know the advice is overstated and overblown, but it’s true. We all wear masks in our everyday life, but dating is about taking it off. Don’t pretend you’re someone you’re not and don’t be the person you are when you’re trying to woo someone.

Be honest with your hopes and your fears. You don’t have to unload on the first date, but you do have to let him in if you want to figure out if you’re right for each other.

He Wants to Know Where He Stands
Kind, genuine men who are looking for more than just a hookup aren’t into playing games. He wants to know where he stands with you. If you like him, if you’re enjoying the date, if you’re keen to see him again.

So don’t be afraid to tell him you’re enjoying his company while on the date. Everyone enjoys a little confidence boost like this! And if you’re not, then don’t be afraid to explain that gently to him, and cut the date short. 

So be yourself, be kind, and don’t put any pressure on the date. Just focus on having fun and finding out more about this person.

Do you drive yourself crazy asking yourself what do women want from a date?

Have you been on many dates thinking she had an amazing time, only for her to tell you she’s not interested?

Women might seem like a mystery, but that’s only because our minds work differently. 

The truth is it’s really not that tricky to do your part when you know what htey want. All you need to know is a few key ingredients that create a winning recipe for success.

Here are the 8 top things women want from a date.

She Wants a Real Date
Don’t ask her to hang out or chill. Put in a little effort, big guy.

Trust me when I say it’s hard to find a man today who still takes women on actual dates. I wasn’t taken on a proper date until the ripe old age of 25. If you can’t be bothered to plan a proper date, then someone else will.

But if you are, then find the courage to ask her out on a date, and make the effort when it comes to planning it. 

Make sure you’re crystal clear with her that it’s a date. 

She Wants To Be Comfortable
Match did a study in the US about single people’s attitudes towards love, sex and relationships. In it, they found that the number one thing women want on a first date is to feel comfortable. A whopping 79% of women listed this as their priority. 

If a woman doesn’t feel comfortable with you first, she won’t be able to open up to you or know if she’s truly attracted to you. Comfort is a basic need of safety for women. 

So do your best to put her at ease and make her feel relaxed.

She Wants Genuine Compliments
The key word here is “want.” Women don’t need you to compliment them, but they want you to now and then. But it has to be genuine. Say something nice because you mean it, not because you think you’ll get something out of it.

Bonus points if you compliment us on something aside from our appearance. This lets us know you’re paying attention, and you’re interested in more than our body. 

She Wants Your Undivided Attention
If you let your eyes wander too much on a date with a woman, she’ll get the message that you’re not that not interested. Or you’re not a great listener.

Neither is a good look.

Keep your phone in your pocket. Make good eye contact and actively listen to what she has to say.

She Wants You To Make An Effort
You know how sometimes in movies nice guys get told they need to quit trying too hard? Yeah well, there’s no such thing. No woman actually complains that someone is trying too hard.
Effort is a huge turn on. It shows us that you care.
That goes for your appearance, the plans you make for us, the way you treat other people we encounter on the date, and the conversation we have. 
No woman dislikes like to receive flowers. No woman dislikes guys who dress well. Make an effort.

She Wants To Feel That You’re Present
When we’re on a date chatting away and sharing our life story with you, don’t drift off. 
Nodding your head is a great first step, but we need more. If you’re actively listening to us, then you should be able to ask questions, share your views, and join in with the conversation so it doesn’t feel one sided.
This is how you make a woman feel heard and understood.

She Wants Honesty
We don’t care if you’re looking for something casual or serious, all we want is for you to be upfront and honest about it from the beginning. This saves us a lot of time and unnecessary heartache when we eventually learn you’re not willing to commit despite communicating that you were.
Similarly, we want you to be the real you. Don’t embellish who you are or what you’ve accomplished. And don’t pretend to be someone you think we’ll be attracted to. Let us decide if we’re attracted to who you really are. And if we’re not, then we aren’t the right match for you.

She Wants Affection
When meeting someone for the first time, it’s hard to gauge what’s appropriate in terms of physical touch, especially as you don’t know this person’s comfort levels. 
A hug or a kiss on the cheek when you first meet is a nice way to show a woman a little bit of affection. 
On the date, you might reach for her hand over the table, or put your hand on her back while walking together. But always ask if you’re not sure where her head’s at.  

She Wants You To Know She’s Not That Complicated
We’re not asking for a lot, and any man can manage everything on this list if he makes an effort to. 
So if you care about the woman you’re going on a date with and want her to have the best time possible, pay close attention to everything on this list.