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What Do Women Want From a Date

Do you drive yourself crazy asking yourself what do women want from a date?

Have you been on many dates thinking she had an amazing time, only for her to tell you she’s not interested?

Women might seem like a mystery, but that’s only because our minds work differently. 

The truth is it’s really not that tricky to do your part when you know what htey want. All you need to know is a few key ingredients that create a winning recipe for success.

Here are the 8 top things women want from a date.

She Wants a Real Date
Don’t ask her to hang out or chill. Put in a little effort, big guy.

Trust me when I say it’s hard to find a man today who still takes women on actual dates. I wasn’t taken on a proper date until the ripe old age of 25. If you can’t be bothered to plan a proper date, then someone else will.

But if you are, then find the courage to ask her out on a date, and make the effort when it comes to planning it. 

Make sure you’re crystal clear with her that it’s a date

She Wants To Be Comfortable
Match did a study in the US about single people’s attitudes towards love, sex and relationships. In it, they found that the number one thing women want on a first date is to feel comfortable. A whopping 79% of women listed this as their priority. 

If a woman doesn’t feel comfortable with you first, she won’t be able to open up to you or know if she’s truly attracted to you. Comfort is a basic need of safety for women. 

So do your best to put her at ease and make her feel relaxed.

She Wants Genuine Compliments
The key word here is “want.” Women don’t need you to compliment them, but they want you to now and then. But it has to be genuine. Say something nice because you mean it, not because you think you’ll get something out of it.

Bonus points if you compliment us on something aside from our appearance. This lets us know you’re paying attention, and you’re interested in more than our body. 

She Wants Your Undivided Attention
If you let your eyes wander too much on a date with a woman, she’ll get the message that you’re not that not interested. Or you’re not a great listener.

Neither is a good look.

Keep your phone in your pocket. Make good eye contact and actively listen to what she has to say.

She Wants You To Make An Effort
You know how sometimes in movies nice guys get told they need to quit trying too hard? Yeah well, there’s no such thing. No woman actually complains that someone is trying too hard.
Effort is a huge turn on. It shows us that you care.
That goes for your appearance, the plans you make for us, the way you treat other people we encounter on the date, and the conversation we have. 
No woman dislikes like to receive flowers. No woman dislikes guys who dress well. Make an effort.

She Wants To Feel That You’re Present
When we’re on a date chatting away and sharing our life story with you, don’t drift off. 
Nodding your head is a great first step, but we need more. If you’re actively listening to us, then you should be able to ask questions, share your views, and join in with the conversation so it doesn’t feel one sided.
This is how you make a woman feel heard and understood.

She Wants Honesty
We don’t care if you’re looking for something casual or serious, all we want is for you to be upfront and honest about it from the beginning. This saves us a lot of time and unnecessary heartache when we eventually learn you’re not willing to commit despite communicating that you were.
Similarly, we want you to be the real you. Don’t embellish who you are or what you’ve accomplished. And don’t pretend to be someone you think we’ll be attracted to. Let us decide if we’re attracted to who you really are. And if we’re not, then we aren’t the right match for you.

She Wants Affection
When meeting someone for the first time, it’s hard to gauge what’s appropriate in terms of physical touch, especially as you don’t know this person’s comfort levels. 
A hug or a kiss on the cheek when you first meet is a nice way to show a woman a little bit of affection. 
On the date, you might reach for her hand over the table, or put your hand on her back while walking together. But always ask if you’re not sure where her head’s at.  

She Wants You To Know She’s Not That Complicated
We’re not asking for a lot, and any man can manage everything on this list if he makes an effort to. 
So if you care about the woman you’re going on a date with and want her to have the best time possible, pay close attention to everything on this list.

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